Update – June 2010
Welcome to The Daddy Diaries! We began this blog as an effort to chronicle our lives as prospective and then new parents. Our hope was to both keep our families involved (since they live out of state) and to be able to show our children what life was like for us as a family starting out. It has since become much more than that. Because we have explored different means to become parents—foster care and adoption—we have begun to amass a lot of information which we hope will help anyone else starting down either of these two paths. Mostly though, this has become an outlet, to say the things that need to be said about who we are, what we are going through, and how much we both love to be parents.
June 2007
Welcome to The Daddy Diaries! We are glad you decided to stop by. Hopefully, you’ll visit this blog often and join us on our journey to Daddyhood.
For those who don’t know us…We are Juan and Darrow, living in the mid-Atlantic area and “daddies” to three loveable, fun dogs – Mika, Milo and Rocky. We have just begun the adoption process (no, not a dog this time) and thought a blog would be a great way to share our adoption experiences with family, friends and others interested in the adoption process.
We’re excited about the opportunity to be fathers together. There’s a lot of love between us, and we want to share that love with a child in need. Hopefully, we won’t have to wait too long for Daddyhood to happen. In the meantime, feel free to explore The Daddy Diaries. Comments and questions are welcome!
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June 25, 2007 at 3:47 pm
Frances
Congratulations on your quest to become parents!!!! You are doing the right thing in going to classes together and learning more about parenthood. Although, do not be bashful in seeking advice from some of us old souls (and I use the term “old’ lightly :0)
We are looking forward to becoming grandparents again. We won’t tell Billy and Trey until its time for the adoption process because they will ask everyday, when is the baby coming?
Kevin, congratulations on your new job at John Hopkins. We have the name of a prominent doctor that we will send to you. He is a friend of the couple Frances did the major event for in May. They all went to Princeton together and at the reunion in May he complained of not having enough qualified Blacks at John Hopkins. We immediately had her send him your name, so he knows about you. We want to get his name right so we will have her send it to us in a email and share with you.
Take care and keep the blog info coming. We love you both.
Love,
Dad and Frances
August 3, 2007 at 9:43 am
prairieguy
I think it is great you and your partner are seeking to adopt and it appears Maryland does not have any issue with gays adopting. As a gay man I amvery supportive of gays/lesbians being allowed to adopt or be foster parents.
I will be addressing this issue in one of my blog entries soon.
Peave,
Larry~
March 26, 2008 at 1:22 pm
Ada
This is a great blog. Juan or Darrow, would you please email me to discuss a possible contribution to Babble.com?
Best,
Ada
April 21, 2008 at 1:36 pm
Jeannine
I wish you all the best and I’ll be following your story here.
November 24, 2009 at 6:03 pm
Eva
I”m glad that I found your blog. I will be tuning in!
April 29, 2010 at 8:42 am
Jillian
Juan & Darrow,
Thank you for your blog! I live in Baltimore and my husband and I have been fostering a little boy for four months. Like you, we became foster parents in the hopes of adopting a child in need.
DSS is talking about getting us legal guardianship instead of seeking TPR. We’re thinking it might be a good time to talk to a lawyer to make sure we know what is going on. I was wondering how you found a lawyer to deal with DSS proceedings.
I know you are very busy with two little ones and demanding careers, but any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
Thanks,
Jillian
jlp2727@gmail.com
May 23, 2010 at 7:25 am
Menina
This is so heartwarming. All the best x
June 25, 2010 at 8:28 pm
ollda97
Thank you for sharing. All the best!
June 25, 2010 at 11:07 pm
missblue02
I feel as though i need to subscribe to your blog. Your words are encouraging, and loving. Although you are, I’m sure, constantly surrounded by hate and discrimination, not only for your sexual orientation, but the interracial coupling as well, i cannot help but feel sort of bonded to you both in a way. I am not a homosexual woman, but i do know many friends and family members who are going through similar situations, whether it be trying to marry legally, or dealing with the stupidity of the ppl who are scared of the unfamiliar. I praise both of you in your quest for love, a family and peace.
June 27, 2010 at 12:55 am
Natalya
I just want to say that your blog is inspiring. Love is a rare treasure to find, especially love that stays true. I am a single mother of 2 and I hope to find what you both have already found.
Take care!
June 27, 2010 at 6:33 am
ashleymandi
I’ve just found your blog and am reading the archives. I love reading about your quest to adopt and your little ones now. We are two women that are planning our route into motherhood and reading your words is inspiring. Thank you for sharing!
~Mandi
June 30, 2010 at 4:31 am
Orso Kane
Hi Guy`s ! I`ve just started writing a blog, and I found yours. On the begining my own was just in polish, but now I started writing in english. I put link to your blog (wish that you don`t mind) so more people can read your story ! It`s really great. Wish you all the best and to your son.
***Orso
July 21, 2010 at 1:24 pm
Heather
Hi Guys, I just stumbled across your old blog on Babble, and read the whole thing in one sitting, I found your story so captivating and emotional. I truly believe than it is neither blood nor a piece of paper that makes a parent, but the love shared between a parent and a child. My situation is not very similar to yours: my husband and I have a biological son who is two and a baby girl on the way, but we are all parents just the same. God bless you, and I look forward to catching up on your beautiful family on this blog.
March 25, 2012 at 3:46 pm
Jamie Hebert
Hello. I am a filmmaker and I am creating a short, cute film for kids of LGBT parents to be screened at Family Day at OUTFEST here in Los Angeles. I wanted to know if I can send you information via email to ask for your help raising funds to make this film possible. Can you email me and we can discuss this?
I appreciate it.
Yours,
Jamie Hebert