We made our second journey to Seattle. Thirty minutes before leaving, T took a tumble down a few stairs resulting in an ugly gash just over his right eye. He didn’t need stitches so we applied some ice and continued packing—flight #422 was not departing without two frazzled dads and a crazy toddler aboard. The eye was going to be big and ugly no matter what we did. We like to think of it as his prize fighter look.
Traveling by air with a 2+ year old is a bit different. For one, the little guy is much more aware. He sat next to the window buckled in like the rest of us, watching out the window as the plane took off. He had some pretty big eyes as we went rocketing down the runway and kept looking up at us, like he was asking, “the roar of the engines and the rumbling of the plane, there is nothing to worry about—-right?” And as the plane lifted up and we soared out over Baltimore, he sat back and looked out at the shrinking landscape below. He seemed more puzzled than anything.
In the air he was busy for the first few hours, mostly climbing on us trying to look over the seats both forward and aft. But the volume of our little tot and his busyness paled in comparison to that of the five young children sitting behind us and the myriad of infants populating the rest of the plane. It seems that other parents had been turned on to the advantages of late night flights.
We stayed at Uncle Bill and Auntie Pam’s place—a working horse ranch just outside of Seattle. It is peaceful and calm and beautiful and heaven for a little kid—and for weary daddies. The next morning the gash above the eye had swollen and looked pretty awful. As a rough and tumble two-something, T was sporting three war wounds on his head now—not the first and certainly not the last.
Mr. T was the life of the party at the gathering the next day with my big family. People took turns playing with him and he in turn spent most of the time unleashing his huge laugh and crazy yells and screams on all of us.
Without going into detail our vacation came with a number of firsts:
First horsey ride
First tractor ride
First big truck ride
First ferry boat ride
First time being up close and personal with a big motorcycle
First time at the beach
We shifted from T’s regular schedule into vacation mode which is really no schedule at all: short little car naps; excitement and late nights; add that to the three hour time difference and you have one messed up child. The lack of schedule and stimulation from all directions helped propel him into a little twoish-terribleness. Every time we had a meal at a restaurant food went flying, there was screaming and wailing and way too much correction—not particularly fun. Almost every night all of us fell asleep around 9:30 pm on the same sofa-bed. By the end of the trip we had some amazing times with my family but we daddies were utterly exhausted.
The redeye flight home was uneventful—on cue T slept the entire time. What was most striking about this week was the explosion of development that is happening in our little boy. The experience of being around family and friends and all of the new experiences only amplified that. Sometimes it made me just sit back and marvel at him.

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June 22, 2009 at 9:26 am
EG
That sounds like a GREAT vacation! Loved the list of firsts. I love two-year-olds. Of course we have boys, but this Little Girls poem still fits, at least for Little Man!:
When she was good,
She was very, very good,
And when she was bad she was horrid.
Happy Fathers’ Day!
June 22, 2009 at 12:17 pm
Melissa
It’s so hard to respect the schedule when you’re away from home. We have this problem even when we drive only 1 hour to visit my parents.
Happy Fathers Day to you guys!
June 22, 2009 at 12:27 pm
Nichole
Sounds like a wonderful experience for T! Hopefully, he will be able to enjoy many more trips there with you two!
June 22, 2009 at 11:21 pm
Susanna
I am so glad I came across this blog. I am a foster parent for DSS and just had a huge disappointment in having a hearing postponed. My logical mind understands why, but my heart wants to know that the children that I love and that know me as “Mom” will not be taken away. How do you love a child and not feel that way? I have had a FD for over 15 months and her infant brother joined us. I am feeling the same ” in limbo” feeling that you have described in some of your blogs. It is impossible not to love and care for the children with all your heart…..as you said to be a parent, not a foster parent. I am single, so I have devoted the all of my energy and time to caring for these children. I truly want the best for them and as time goes by I just can’t imagine them being uprooted. I wonder if Masters think of the implications of uprooting a child after being in a secure loving environment for that long. A year or two to a child is a lifetime. Of cousre reunification should be a goal, but I think that the 15 month time frame should be adhered to because you really are playing a horrible game with a child’s mental health if you disrupt a bond of that long, especially with a very young child, who has little or no memory of their previous environment. I am hoping the best for you and will continue to read your blog.
June 23, 2009 at 5:18 am
underbrella
the developmental bursts are so exciting when they happen. It often seems that LML has been on a developmental plateau for some time and then all of a sudden she’s doing lots of new things. Of course she’s learning and doing new things all the time. It’s just that they are small and incremental and often we don’t see them. It’s often when other people, who haven’t seen her for a few weeks say, “wow, she’s speaking more clearly” or something like that, then we realise.
Sounds like you had a fantastic vacation.
June 23, 2009 at 11:11 am
Kristine
Sounds like such a fun trip! J is also 2 and every day I am amazed at how much he is learning. If you have any tips about traveling with a 2 year old (having been there, done that), please let me know. We are traveling in August and will be dealing with the same thing you were: 3 hour time difference and a 5 hour flight. Yikes!
Hope you all had a wonderful Father’s Day! You are wonderful fathers!