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The only good foster parent is one who doesn’t act like one.
I remember being at one of the hearings a few months ago in Juvenile Court that would decide the fate of our foster son. Our son’s court appointed attorney (the guardian ad litem), a friendly guy came up and introduced himself. He recognized that we as foster parents had more than a passing interest in what happened inside the courtroom. He approached us a number of times to explain what was happening. After a long afternoon of negotiations some of which were rather tense, some decisions were made. Unfortunately none of which could be shared with us at the time. But he did have a talk with us after the proceedings were finished. He let us know that this would be a long, hard process that could drag out for some time. He advised us to be patient and then told us to prepare ourselves for the possibility that our foster son could possibly go home. I think he was concerned that we were so attached to our foster son and that the possibility of adopting him was just as big as the possibility that he might go home. I wish I could remember his exact words but it was something to the effect of: don’t love him too much because you may have to eventually give him up.
