Comments on: The Dispositioning http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/ The ongoing journey... Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:30:32 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Train « The Daddy Diaries http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/#comment-990 Train « The Daddy Diaries Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:17:55 +0000 http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/?p=137#comment-990 [...] have been bartered in backrooms and court orders issued.  There have been no stern words regarding why the children were placed in foster care or that they were determined to be a Child in Need of Assistance (CINA).  No one has been scolded [...] [...] have been bartered in backrooms and court orders issued.  There have been no stern words regarding why the children were placed in foster care or that they were determined to be a Child in Need of Assistance (CINA).  No one has been scolded [...]

]]> By: How many lawyers does it take to….? « The Daddy Diaries http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/#comment-880 How many lawyers does it take to….? « The Daddy Diaries Fri, 23 Jan 2009 18:17:40 +0000 http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/?p=137#comment-880 [...] a lot of time trying to understand what all of the milestones mean: shelter care, adjudication, disposition, permanency plan review.  If you place them end to end in this case they extend to 15 months.  We [...] [...] a lot of time trying to understand what all of the milestones mean: shelter care, adjudication, disposition, permanency plan review.  If you place them end to end in this case they extend to 15 months.  We [...]

]]> By: Juan http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/#comment-733 Juan Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:21:29 +0000 http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/?p=137#comment-733 Thanks everyone for the supportive comments. While the court process may have taken a step in our direction, our experience with social services has not. In fact we seem to be more in the dark about what is happening than at any point in this process. We have also experienced a real deterioration in our relationships with individuals in social services. I am about to post a pretty dark view of the foster care system in relation to our experience with our local social services agency. To usgirls: whatever you do in this process make sure that you arm yourself with information. Often that means keeping up on the regulations in your state with regard to the role of foster parents and the court process. I would also encourage you to establish good relationships where you can. We (along with other foster parents we know) have had good relationships with social workers who made the initial placement and did the followup on the care of our foster child. Case workers assigned to your foster child for the long-term and those that help you keep your certification can be problematic (from just unresponsive to downright abusive). Take care in handling those relationships from the start. Most importantly, get to know your foster child's court appointed attorney. Often they are an incredible wealth of information and may even become an advocate for you--even in the courtoom. Thanks everyone for the supportive comments. While the court process may have taken a step in our direction, our experience with social services has not. In fact we seem to be more in the dark about what is happening than at any point in this process. We have also experienced a real deterioration in our relationships with individuals in social services. I am about to post a pretty dark view of the foster care system in relation to our experience with our local social services agency.

To usgirls: whatever you do in this process make sure that you arm yourself with information. Often that means keeping up on the regulations in your state with regard to the role of foster parents and the court process. I would also encourage you to establish good relationships where you can. We (along with other foster parents we know) have had good relationships with social workers who made the initial placement and did the followup on the care of our foster child. Case workers assigned to your foster child for the long-term and those that help you keep your certification can be problematic (from just unresponsive to downright abusive). Take care in handling those relationships from the start. Most importantly, get to know your foster child’s court appointed attorney. Often they are an incredible wealth of information and may even become an advocate for you–even in the courtoom.

]]> By: usgirls http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/#comment-732 usgirls Fri, 27 Jun 2008 14:47:42 +0000 http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/?p=137#comment-732 Congratulations and Good Luck! We are on the same path--we are fostering to adopt. We JUST finished our paper work. Pray for us. oh yeah, I have a blog too at w8ting.wordpress.com Congratulations and Good Luck! We are on the same path–we are fostering to adopt. We JUST finished our paper work. Pray for us.

oh yeah, I have a blog too at w8ting.wordpress.com

]]> By: Ladd http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/#comment-730 Ladd Sun, 01 Jun 2008 23:37:35 +0000 http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/?p=137#comment-730 One more step on a very long road, but at least it's moving in a positive direction! One more step on a very long road, but at least it’s moving in a positive direction!

]]> By: Anonymous http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/#comment-726 Anonymous Mon, 26 May 2008 14:40:19 +0000 http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/?p=137#comment-726 It breaks my heart that the process is so difficult, but I'm so touched by your obvious love for your son and your determination to go the distance. The very best of luck to you on this journey! It breaks my heart that the process is so difficult, but I’m so touched by your obvious love for your son and your determination to go the distance. The very best of luck to you on this journey!

]]> By: Julie http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/2008/05/24/the-dispositioning/#comment-724 Julie Sun, 25 May 2008 14:32:11 +0000 http://thedaddydiaries.wordpress.com/?p=137#comment-724 This sounds like good news, for the most part, so I'm praying for you all that reason prevails and Ty is placed with you for ever and always at the end of the summer. This sounds like good news, for the most part, so I’m praying for you all that reason prevails and Ty is placed with you for ever and always at the end of the summer.

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