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This will be a short entry because I have no time to do much of anything but to tend to the Little King. I actually had breakfast this morning which was a feat in itself. I know I am pushing my luck by trying to write this post but here goes anyway. Read the rest of this entry »
Last night, Juan said to me “I wonder what T thinks about being here?” I was pretty quick to answer that T is probably happy and that he knows that someone is taking good care of him. Read the rest of this entry »
…daysixdaysevendayeightdayninedayten! Whew! It is hard to believe that T has been with us for 10 days. Most of them have been a whirlwind of shopping, diaper changing, bottle preparation, feeding, laundry, and…well…anything and everything baby-related. And somewhere in all of that, we’ve tried to find time to do some things for ourselves. Like sleep and eat. Read the rest of this entry »
Hello, All. We’ll write a more extensive update in the next day or so, but just to let you know…
There’s a new, 9-month old member of our household as of Friday, October 19 at 7pm. At this point, we don’t know if this placement will lead to permanent adoption, but no matter what, the experience so far has been fantastic.
More to follow, so stay tuned.
In a post a few months ago I tried to speculate on what would happen when we got that first call from the placement office at Baltimore City Department of Social Services (BCDSS):
What happens for example, after we become certified as a foster-adoption resource family, if BCDSS presents us with an 18-month old boy. Would we then respond by saying, “Oh, I’m sorry, he isn’t young enough. You got any younger babies?
That is what I wrote back in July. The post was in response to the discussions that my partner and I were having regarding the child that we would bring into our home. It amazes me how my tongue-in-cheek comment has become reality–well almost reality. Read the rest of this entry »
It seems like we are standing still. I have felt a little powerless in the last few days as if there is nothing much more we can do. We are, it seems, at the mercy of the City of Baltimore and of those who are just cogs in the great machine. There is a lack of knowledge or communication about who all of the cogs are; what their function is; and finally how they contribute to the final product. After talking to our continuing home worker she mentioned to me that it was good that we were being proactive. Which I took to mean, you best not sit and wait for something to happen because you will be sitting a long time. But I also asked about contacting the placement office every couple of weeks to check in, see how things were going. She looked at me and said something like, why would you do that? In the meantime I have now begun to investigate social service agencies of counties in other States. I will continue to be the determined, responsive, proactive, inquisitive, prospective father that I have been throughout this process. I expect that I will end up being a pest–but hopefully a loveable pest in any case.
The Continuing Home Worker
Huh? Continuing what? Another social worker?
Well, we originally thought that the person who would handle our case next was going to be sort of on our side. She was going to help facilitate the placement of a child in our home. She would interface with the social workers representing individual children and try to find a good placement for us. I mistakenly called her the placement worker. That most definitely is not what she is. Read the rest of this entry »
